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Post by Diane on Feb 14, 2004 15:11:04 GMT -5
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Post by Lisa on Mar 25, 2004 21:51:43 GMT -5
I've managed to get the whole family on to go through this test. It was very enlightening to see what problems they saw as serious and which they don't. It should help in getting meds that work for all of them. And I think it earns DH a "Ring of Fire." And me...now I know where my tendencies lie...anxiety and compulsiveness...so maybe one day I can sign up for meds myself.
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Post by Les on Mar 26, 2004 4:55:20 GMT -5
The only problem about these tests is that you HAVE to get the parent/partner/spouse, or anybody else to also answer the questions. My dh did something like this even recently (on meds and doing pretty well) when looking through this ADD and relationships workbook to see which chapters he should really focus on the most. It, thankfully, also had a place for ME to rate which chapters I though would be the most important. He rated the chapter on "ADD, stimulation and romantic relationships" (which said that you should read this chapter if you tend to focus on your interests to the detriment of your relationships, if you have a tendency to become bored with your relationships, or if you allow your craving for stimulation to cause you to lose sight of how your behaviour is impacting those around you) as a 3 out of 5 (3 is helpful, and 5 is vital)?!?!?!? Hello?!?!? Do you REMEMBER that yearlong affair??? Needless to say, if I had NOT pointed out that I thought this chapter to be VITAL, he would not have read it and discovered that YES, this was a problem that he needed to address. They just don't see themselves the same way that we do. Les
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Post by Diane on Mar 26, 2004 11:42:26 GMT -5
Or they lie. When SO was given an ADD questionnaire by his first ADD doctor, one of the questions was "do you purposely annoy people?"
Well, he's been doing this since he was a child. But he admitted to me he lied on the questionnaire about this and several other questions. To quote him, "I lied."
His mother was given the same questionnaire, however. It must have been interesting for the doctor to see what areas he lied on. Probably told him more, with his mom's truthful answers, than if he'd told the truth on every question.
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Post by Lisa on Mar 26, 2004 12:13:51 GMT -5
I was watching over their shoulders as they filled the questionnaire out. I was their to answer questions, i.e. what does this mean? and to provide some wife/mother guilt to keep them on target. My mere presence works to that end. DS was a tad less than honest, but DD and DH answered in a very honest way. I was impressed by how problems which to me were clear but not extreme were reported as extreme problems for them. I, not being in their heads, really don't have a feel for how miserable, paranoid and nervous these two really are. It's a bit distressing.
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Post by Les on Mar 26, 2004 14:25:53 GMT -5
I knew you would be on top of that, because you are and old pro at this ADD game!
Yes, what is a huge issue for them might not be for us, and the other way around. I'm almost afraid to know what goes on in their heads most of the time!Les
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Post by Diane on Oct 3, 2010 14:30:14 GMT -5
I just edited the first post to give the correct, new link to the ADD test.
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